How do we unlearn in order to discover ourselves? Because the truth is that it's really tough to admit when we may disagree with former teachings! Is it perhaps due to a childhood of being reprimanded for disagreeing with elders? Or from the conditioning of a school system that labels one as disobedient, unruly, or "Bad" when one doesn't follow rules or authority?
I've learned that there is so many things to unlearn in order to grow. Isn't that ironic! Many of our former childhood teachings must be set aside and questioned in order for us to ask ourselves what do "I" think? Or how do "I" feel? You see, if you remain under your childhood instruction, how can you discover your adult self? Now that you've learned how to think, interpret, analyze, compare, etc... Share with yourself your opinions of everything ever taught to you. Is there a better way to understand what's been shared with you? What was the purpose of your lessons? Have you come about a better way to get to the gist of things?
Questioning leads to experimenting and research, thus expanding your horizons. You become more open-minded and better able to deal wisely with a broader range of circumstances. So, growth is a very good thing which encourages more flexibility and compassion. Though it is obviously tough to begin gaining deeper levels of knowledge regarding shallow childhood guidelines: "Don't steal," "Don't lie," "Be polite." As grown-ups we appreciate the hard work involved in acquiring things and we respect other's belongings, we also understand business and profits. We build enough integrity and confidence to stand by our words and value relationships.
The scariest thing about questioning all of our teachings is discovering that we disagree fully or partially with some of them. Often times, those who taught us are/were well admired: Parents/family, teachers, mentors, preachers, friends, supervisors, etc... Yet, you can respect someone without agreeing with all of their points of views; even if it's your mom or pastor.
I was told that being "Gay/lesbian" was wrong, as well as sex before marriage. Yet, I have changed my views on those. The idea of the death penalty used to offend me, I thought abortion was murder and had never heard of "Reincarnation," etc... I used to think that black girls needed to perm their hair and that completing school would lead to success. Yet my views are not in accordance with the things I have been taught by those who I still respect.
It's crucial to understand yourself and why you believe the things you do in order to assure that YOU are respecting YOUR OWN conclusions. Just as you can disagree with others, you should be secure enough in your own beliefs to allow others to disagree with you. In the end, the one's who are most offended at differences are the one's who haven't enough courage to follow their own minds. They are likely blindly abiding by hand-me-down guidelines. Which may be okay for them, but YOU determine if those same hand-me-downs are okay for you.
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
Saturday, November 29, 2014
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Saturday, November 22, 2014
How Important is a J-O-B?
How important is a J-O-B? The answer is EXTREMELY! Use this reality to empower yourself on choosing a direction that suits your needs. I sat down one day to determine the impact that a J-O-B has on one's life. It's reach was actually scary! Here goes nothing...
A job ultimately determines where one can afford to live; the type of clothes one can wear; even the type of foods eaten. This affects your lifestyle and overall health; determines whether or not you should or shouldn't have children and if so, what type of lifestyle they will have. Their neighborhoods are pre-determined based on your income, their schools and thus, their friends. It affects the types of experiences and therefore even the types of people YOU will even encounter. Will you travel? Will you need some form of government assistance? What types of insurances you will have, if any! It controls who you spend the majority of your time around and thus how happy you are, generally. If you get married, it impacts your wedding ceremony, based on what's affordable. Also, whether or not you will go on a honeymoon and where to. As you become accepting of your job, you eventually become accustomed to the types of goals and budgets you set in life. This means that overtime your job affects what you believe is even possible for yourself. Wow! This is pretty heavy stuff!
When I realized this, I knew just how important it was for me to be true to the lifestyle that I wanted for myself. My job was not providing it and never could. I was totally out of alignment with the reality of what I wanted. We have to REALLY put a lot of thought into INCOME: It's imperative that we are honest with ourselves and are proactive. Perhaps this is why natural talents are so important. Talents enable us to embrace God-given gifts which can provide the balance that we NEED. The goal is stress-free happiness from the ability to do what we love and make a living.
I quit my salary job and returned to the field of real estate. It's a risky arena with commission income. Thus, it is possible to go long periods of time with no money if one is not productive. It's been nearly 60 days from my last paycheck and I'm the happiest I've been in a long time. Now I have a strategy and a chance to live the lifestyle that I want. I find that to be a lot better than the guarantee of never accomplishing the financial, material, mental and physical standards that I wish for. A great burden of hopelessness, compromise and settling have been lifted off of me. My limitations have been released! Selling and service are my strengths and passions. Also I have a knack for organizing groups and businesses. I am destined to be the CEO of my own corporation as a very prominent business investor. Real estate opens that door for me.
Some people are born to sing, lead corporations, dance, organize events, etc... If you do YOU, you'll be a happier person capable of attracting and building more meaningful relationships. Others who you meet will be able to handle parts of your business that you may not be so good at; such as managing, recruiting, marketing, etc... Step one is to BE YOU while step two allows others to BE THEMSELVES.
The question is: Are you willing to allow a job to have such a large portion of control over your life experience? It seems to be a "No-brainer" that you probably should be relying on ONLY yourself in all of the areas that a job impacts. NO boss can read your mind and give you what you need. You have to make sure you are fulfilling your own desires or select a job that can. If your job is not meeting YOUR unique necessities, then it's time for a change! Do whatever is necessary to show the universe who you really are.
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
A job ultimately determines where one can afford to live; the type of clothes one can wear; even the type of foods eaten. This affects your lifestyle and overall health; determines whether or not you should or shouldn't have children and if so, what type of lifestyle they will have. Their neighborhoods are pre-determined based on your income, their schools and thus, their friends. It affects the types of experiences and therefore even the types of people YOU will even encounter. Will you travel? Will you need some form of government assistance? What types of insurances you will have, if any! It controls who you spend the majority of your time around and thus how happy you are, generally. If you get married, it impacts your wedding ceremony, based on what's affordable. Also, whether or not you will go on a honeymoon and where to. As you become accepting of your job, you eventually become accustomed to the types of goals and budgets you set in life. This means that overtime your job affects what you believe is even possible for yourself. Wow! This is pretty heavy stuff!
When I realized this, I knew just how important it was for me to be true to the lifestyle that I wanted for myself. My job was not providing it and never could. I was totally out of alignment with the reality of what I wanted. We have to REALLY put a lot of thought into INCOME: It's imperative that we are honest with ourselves and are proactive. Perhaps this is why natural talents are so important. Talents enable us to embrace God-given gifts which can provide the balance that we NEED. The goal is stress-free happiness from the ability to do what we love and make a living.
I quit my salary job and returned to the field of real estate. It's a risky arena with commission income. Thus, it is possible to go long periods of time with no money if one is not productive. It's been nearly 60 days from my last paycheck and I'm the happiest I've been in a long time. Now I have a strategy and a chance to live the lifestyle that I want. I find that to be a lot better than the guarantee of never accomplishing the financial, material, mental and physical standards that I wish for. A great burden of hopelessness, compromise and settling have been lifted off of me. My limitations have been released! Selling and service are my strengths and passions. Also I have a knack for organizing groups and businesses. I am destined to be the CEO of my own corporation as a very prominent business investor. Real estate opens that door for me.
Some people are born to sing, lead corporations, dance, organize events, etc... If you do YOU, you'll be a happier person capable of attracting and building more meaningful relationships. Others who you meet will be able to handle parts of your business that you may not be so good at; such as managing, recruiting, marketing, etc... Step one is to BE YOU while step two allows others to BE THEMSELVES.
The question is: Are you willing to allow a job to have such a large portion of control over your life experience? It seems to be a "No-brainer" that you probably should be relying on ONLY yourself in all of the areas that a job impacts. NO boss can read your mind and give you what you need. You have to make sure you are fulfilling your own desires or select a job that can. If your job is not meeting YOUR unique necessities, then it's time for a change! Do whatever is necessary to show the universe who you really are.
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Prove It!
Funny how, the more we open our eyes, we begin to see just how systematic or orderly things really are! For instance, I was working with a client who wanted a land contract and all of the prices seemed too steep for the current market values. Then my broker explained to me that land contracts are always above market value. Why? Because owners know that these are the individuals who do not qualify for traditional funding. Shoot! Are we here again? Yes.
It pays to prove responsibility and until one can do so, they are always tested and given what seems to be the shorter end of the stick. Then the answer toward receiving more appealing circumstances is to first prove worthiness. You have to convince the universe that you are on another level. No one will trust you with what you may not be able to handle. That would be foolishness, right? It's our choice to take ourselves to the next level. It's one thing to follow instructions and do the right thing. But, doesn't it seem to be a million people doing the "Right" thing and still getting nowhere? Then, the answer must be in something more than merely following instructions.
I've come to discover that, not only must we respect the rules of the "Game," but that making moves is the whole point of the game in the first place! It doesn't really matter that I know and respect the rules of Monopoly because unless I actually roll the dice and move, then I'm not playing!
Thus, you can suit yourself and pay bills on time and see where it gets you! You've proven loyalty. True! But, then what? Are you going to pass boardwalk and never buy any property? There's always a next level beyond the one you're at. How long will you be content in doing the same things over and over? We all know routine gets boring, overtime!
If you don't have a credit card, start with a secured one. Prove yourself! Yes, it's more expensive than unsecured because YOU have to fund the card up front with your initial credit limit. You are not ready to be given anything just yet! Lower credit scores mean higher interest rates on credit cards and loans. So what! Pay your bills on time and get a higher score, thus allowing you to get your interest rates lowered. Don't be too proud to prove yourself: No one is handed anything for free! Those who are tend to quickly reveal ignorance and lose it all. That's definitely not the goal. It's much better to prepare for status than to have it thrown at you! Some are fortunate enough to be born with available mentors, the rest of us must graduate from the school of Hard Knocks!
So, what's next land contractors? Get a different form of credit and go further: If you have a credit card, get a car note, a mortgage, begin actually paying off student loans. The game becomes more exciting and exhilarating, the more involved you get! If you have to start on a land contract with a home, eventually fix your credit and qualify for a mortgage. Pay off that homeowner, get a traditional loan and have something that shows on your credit report monthly. Take yourself to the next level when you know you have proven mastery within your current state.
Taking initiative and being proactive then becomes more important than knowledge itself. We all know smart and wise people who sit on what they know without utilizing it to their benefit. Is that how you want to be? It's one thing to learn, but a totally different thing to DO! The world has a proven system that says the more responsible you prove to be, the more responsibility you will receive. It is much more expensive and less appealing to be amongst the least trustworthy, credit wise. So elevate yourselves! Make moves! Go to bigger and better places. Prove yourselves in all areas of life that interest you! Starting from scratch (the bottom), will only expand your expertise on a subject. Always learn AND improve.
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
Saturday, November 15, 2014
Thursday, November 13, 2014
Are You Brave Enough?
What do you do at that moment when you realize that your life is not at all as you had envisioned? Are you brave enough to follow the route that you truly want? Or, do you play it safe? It is estimated that more than 90% of individuals are not living the lives they had intended. Yet people settle. Not only do they make minor compromises, but they make HUGE decisions that are sure to keep them exactly where they are; they work a job that expects a 30 year contribution before receiving a retirement plan; they purchase a home with a 30 year mortgage; they marry and even have children, although none of it is under their ideal circumstances!
How many times do we find ourselves careful in conversation so that others don't become uncomfortable? Can you share your true perspectives within your inner circle? If not, then maybe you need to start aligning yourself with people who have more in common with you. I am not recommending that you lose or neglect friends that are different from you. Only suggesting that you add more who share the same interests: Poets find poetry clubs, comics meet stand-up artists, musicians go to studios etc... There are many ways to share interests with like-minded individuals who will bring out your best qualities in the areas that you are most passionate about.
One's true path is a tough one, considering the fact that we are conditioned to "be stable" in America. Certainty is the goal right? Paycheck every two weeks, one home, one elementary, middle or high school, etc... Yet, when we look around, the routine individuals are not always the ones we aspire to be like. The artists who are paid high lump sums doing what they love appear more in tune with their realities. Could it be that it may pay more in the end to over go stability in order to utilize your true, God-given talents? Those seem to pay much more handsomely in the long run!
All of us were born with various strengths and sometimes a "J-O-B" just won't cater to your abilities. If we truly face reality, many of us are meant to be entrepreneurs. Some of us are truly photographers, painters, singers, dancers, market traders, corporate leaders, etc... If you are not in a job that utilizes your strengths, then I wish you the bravery to step out and reach your true potential! You can be strategic along the way. Doesn't matter if you use a job to secure your correct route. The path is one that encourages happiness and freedom as YOUR TRUE SELF. Just move in the right direction, no matter how slowly you go. I pray that you have the courage to not ignore who you are. It's not true progress if YOU are lost! Reveal and introduce to the world who YOU are. People always admire realness!
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
How many times do we find ourselves careful in conversation so that others don't become uncomfortable? Can you share your true perspectives within your inner circle? If not, then maybe you need to start aligning yourself with people who have more in common with you. I am not recommending that you lose or neglect friends that are different from you. Only suggesting that you add more who share the same interests: Poets find poetry clubs, comics meet stand-up artists, musicians go to studios etc... There are many ways to share interests with like-minded individuals who will bring out your best qualities in the areas that you are most passionate about.
One's true path is a tough one, considering the fact that we are conditioned to "be stable" in America. Certainty is the goal right? Paycheck every two weeks, one home, one elementary, middle or high school, etc... Yet, when we look around, the routine individuals are not always the ones we aspire to be like. The artists who are paid high lump sums doing what they love appear more in tune with their realities. Could it be that it may pay more in the end to over go stability in order to utilize your true, God-given talents? Those seem to pay much more handsomely in the long run!
All of us were born with various strengths and sometimes a "J-O-B" just won't cater to your abilities. If we truly face reality, many of us are meant to be entrepreneurs. Some of us are truly photographers, painters, singers, dancers, market traders, corporate leaders, etc... If you are not in a job that utilizes your strengths, then I wish you the bravery to step out and reach your true potential! You can be strategic along the way. Doesn't matter if you use a job to secure your correct route. The path is one that encourages happiness and freedom as YOUR TRUE SELF. Just move in the right direction, no matter how slowly you go. I pray that you have the courage to not ignore who you are. It's not true progress if YOU are lost! Reveal and introduce to the world who YOU are. People always admire realness!
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Don't Take Your Work Home
One thing I've come to realize is the importance of set hours as an entrepreneur or up and coming professional. You may be desperate to get things running! But at what cost? It's definitely important to be successful. Yet, equally important to be happy and healthy. Missing meals and friends may not exactly motivate you to work harder. In the end, without balance, you may end up resenting the very thing you've worked so hard for. It is a struggle for me to stop working at the end of the day. So, I have a goal of committing to the work hours I have established for myself.
Also, the tools available today, such as smartphone calendars and automated page updates really help to make life easier. I even schedule in personal errands and family time on my calendar. I'll be going ball room dancing with my girls on Thursday after a home loan seminar. The energetic atmosphere will be very much appreciated!
It's feels really good to be participating in our passion as a career! So, don't ruin the experience by sacrificing valuable relationships with those who'd love to celebrate your accomplishments with you. And absolutely, don't make those individuals regret your achievements! Keep their support and be sure that your loved ones know their priority and importance along your dream journey. They are another key aspect of it and are never to be neglected! Continue to work on that balance in your career and personal life until it works perfectly. Don't compromise, just organize!
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
Monday, November 10, 2014
"I Do" Verify My Dreams
Should you enter into a relationship before reaching success? Hmmmm! This is a very tough question. I do believe that most people would agree that it is "Best" to wait until you have fulfilled your own potential before becoming involved with another person. Yet, this is just so hard! I've tried and tried to be in serious, long-term relationships. They were excellent men and we seemed to be a great team! But in reality, can another person truly bring happiness to one who has not yet made themselves happy? Well, the answer for me is... Only temporarily!
I think it is possible to have great moments and dreams and set goals as a couple. Yet, that will not diminish or fill a personal void. Thus, I wouldn't recommend getting into an interdependent relationship, as Steven Covey calls it, until one is satisfactorily independent. Would you want to wonder those dreaded "What if's" that the wise ones warn of? What if I had waited to get married? To have children? What if I had fulfilled my plans first... Would I even be with this person? Yikes! That's a scary thought altogether!
People if you can, do yourselves a favor. Eliminate all the doubt before the I-do's. We want a balanced life with true happiness and as few regrets as possible. Shouldn't that special person be willing to be your friend and see what direction you are heading first, anyhow? Speculate and see if you even want the same ending. Give yourself time, not just to talk about what you want, but to see it come to pass.
Yeah, we all have dreams and plans. But, do we really follow and go after all of them? Just try waiting to see if those plans are actually "In the making." Make sure you two are not just talking, but walking. Do your due diligence in not only making your dreams known, but verify that they are coming to fruition before jumping the broom!
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
I think it is possible to have great moments and dreams and set goals as a couple. Yet, that will not diminish or fill a personal void. Thus, I wouldn't recommend getting into an interdependent relationship, as Steven Covey calls it, until one is satisfactorily independent. Would you want to wonder those dreaded "What if's" that the wise ones warn of? What if I had waited to get married? To have children? What if I had fulfilled my plans first... Would I even be with this person? Yikes! That's a scary thought altogether!
People if you can, do yourselves a favor. Eliminate all the doubt before the I-do's. We want a balanced life with true happiness and as few regrets as possible. Shouldn't that special person be willing to be your friend and see what direction you are heading first, anyhow? Speculate and see if you even want the same ending. Give yourself time, not just to talk about what you want, but to see it come to pass.
Yeah, we all have dreams and plans. But, do we really follow and go after all of them? Just try waiting to see if those plans are actually "In the making." Make sure you two are not just talking, but walking. Do your due diligence in not only making your dreams known, but verify that they are coming to fruition before jumping the broom!
Best wishes to you and your happily balanced estate!
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